STOP Putting Yourself Down to Make Others Feel Comfortable

It's ok to be confident.

Peace family, it is Christina and today I wanted to talk about - I had to stop for this okay. Don't put yourself down to make other people feel more comfortable with you. Let me say that again. Don't put yourself down to make other people feel more comfortable with you!

So before we get into the video as always, I love you guys and wishing you and your family and even your enemies abundant life, love, love, joy, peace, and prosperity and with that I will let's go into the video.

Anne of All Trades

So I was watching one of my favorite channels which is called Anne of all Trades. She's a farmer and she and her husband were like city slickers and they decided to give up the city life and get a farm and they have like 100 I want to see like 120 animals at this point and if you watch her like she literally gets up and is hoofing it like she's like feeding the goats feeding the pigs feeding the alpacas feeding the chickens, making sure everyone's good. She has dogs like I don't even know all the animals that she has it's a lot right and milking the cows and like wow okay and so she's amazing and she has like beautiful positive energy and she's like happy and you can tell she really is satisfied with her life and the things she's done.

And I love her like I'm like this woman is so awesome right I was appalled by this comment that someone put on there, "I love how self-deprecating you are."

What is Self-Deprecating?

I was like ew like why would you say, "I love how self-deprecating you are?"

Self-deprecating means like putting yourself down that's what that means. My mom used to always tell me, "You're so self-deprecating stop doing that! Stop putting yourself down!"

I'm not saying to be arrogant like like, "Oh I'm the best. Let me just tell you guys how awesome I am." No but what I'm saying is like it's it's it's one thing to not be arrogant right and just braggadocious and stuff but like I don't think that anyone should ever be self-deprecating.

Self-deprecating means that you are actively like, "Oh I didn't really do that good of a job. I mean I did it, but I really didn't even know what I was doing. It really isn't that good. I'm really not that smart you know. I'm really kind of ugly you know. I mean at the end of the day like yeah I guess I'm really stupid. I don't even know how that happened how I did that." That's self-deprecating.

Overcoming Other People's Negative Energy

And so I was just like okay think about this the energy of a person who would say that. To me that sounded like and tell me if I'm tripping if you if you hear this right what it sounded like when I read that comment, "I love how self-deprecating you are."

What that sounds like to me is "I love that you put yourself down. It makes me feel more comfortable with myself because I see you in such a high light it makes me feel more comfortable with myself that you put yourself down all the time. Thank you for bringing yourself down so that I don't have to bring you down," That's what that sounds like to me.

A highly confident and joyful person would be like wow an you're amazing be confident in yourself you know like don't put yourself down you you're awesome you're doing great like why would you ever put yourself down for that like you're doing amazing right like.

I just wanted to to make this quick video about how I think literally if you've watched any of my videos like the past few I've been talking about how I feel like the US energy is just super negative. I feel like a lot of people in this country maybe in the world I live in the US so I live in Atlanta Georgia so I can't speak to how everyone is in the world okay but like a lot of people that I see on like like social media are just super negative and it's like putting people down like they get into the comments like someone does something they get into the comments just to say that stupid you know oh their hair looks ugly oh their baby's ugly you know.

And then someone like this woman is spectacular. I think she has a full-time job like she wakes up and she does all of this and then does her actual full-time paying job. I'm not saying to be arrogant right but she should be confident she should be proud of herself for all that she's accomplished like she shouldn't feel the need to, and I'm not saying that she is putting herself down for others, but I'm just saying that she should not feel the need to be self-deprecating to put herself down to make others feel comfortable and I think it's sad that anyone would like look at someone like that and be like happy that they put themselves down. You should never be happy when someone puts themselves down.

Uplifting Each Other

If you see someone and they're like, "Oh I'm actually stupid," like if you saw a child right and they're like, "Oh I'm so stupid I can't do this, I don't even know how I got it right," like you would tell them,

"No you're amazing! You're smart. You're so good at this. You're so good, you just need to try again you know. You did it you did it because you're awesome!"

That's how we should be talking to each other family. We should be uplifting each other, celebrating each other "You're so awesome, you're so smart, you're so good at that, you're so beautiful, you're so amazing!"

We shouldn't be saying, "Oh I'm so glad that this beautiful, amazing, smart person doesn't think that about herself. I'm so glad that she has low self-esteem. I'm so glad that she feels bad about herself and puts herself down all the time. That's so negative! That's so negative, and I don't I don't understand. This it comes from I feel like a low vibrational place where we don't feel comfortable with ourselves and so when we see someone who's doing better than us, maybe it makes us feel uncomfortable or something and so we don't want to feel maybe that Anne is so much better than us. Anne is doing better than me and that's okay like that's okay! She has things that I aspire to. I would love to have a farm. I would love to have that much energy that I can get up and do all of that she does more than I do in a whole day in the morning before her full-time job truly it's spectacular right. She is doing better than me. She has more energy than me right and I celebrate that that's why I watch her. She inspires me. It's okay to be inspired by somebody and not put them down for it.

Don't Ever Put Yourself Down

And so anyway I just wanted to say this like for all of you guys. Don't feel the need to put yourself down or to be self-deprecating to make other people like negative people people who aren't doing as much as you, to make them feel more comfortable. If you're doing amazing, do it and don't be apologetic for it! I'm not saying to be out here and be arrogant like, "Hey look at what I did today I'm so amazing I'm blah blah blah."

No I'm just saying you can just live your life be yourself and let let your works let what you are doing speak for itself but you don't have to apologize for it you don't have to put it down you don't have to say "Well I mean, I'm not really that I mean I really I don't even really know what I'm doing I mean I'm guess I'm just you know that's that's literally just to make negative people feel more comfortable and I don't think we should have to do that you know I think we should all be able to be excellent and awesome and celebrate that in each other as opposed to being happy that someone else is putting themselves down. That's just so crazy to me, so I just wanted to talk about that. Yeah don't ever put yourself down. I'm not ever putting myself down again. I used to have that bad habit of doing that and I have been intentional you see my videos of speaking words of life into myself and into others for that reason because I have had that habit of being self-deprecating, putting myself down, and it's never a good practice you know people especially if someone is determined to see you in a bad light you know they're going to do it you don't have to do it for yourself.

So as always I love you guys, and I'll see you on the next one.

Peace!

I hope you get a bottle of Afro Oil today!

Christina V. Mills is the creator of Liveology® Yoga Studios & Magazine and our products. She is a lifelong spiritual seeker, writer, and yoga teacher. Follow her on Instagram @morelifemoreyoga.

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